So, about the last entry. The person in question is a member of a group I belonged to in Raleigh, and I just don’t like her. Since she bases her self-esteem completely on what other people think of her, she can’t accept that.

I suppose the possibly interesting part is why I don’t like her. The whole self-esteem issue is a big part. She’s also one of those women who will not be happy unless she is married. One day I’d like to be in a long-term, committed relationship, but if that never happens, I will be OK. I’ve made a life for myself that I like. Consequently, people who are not content in the moment (I do mean overall, because everyone feels discontent sometimes) annoy me.

As another example of the above, when she’s talking to a group of people at an event she’s always scanning the room to see if there is a more interesting conversation going on. Many people have picked up on this. It’s always a good idea to send signals that you are not interested in the person to whom you are speaking. People love that.

She’s also really obsessed with being part of the “in crowd” as she defines it.

Then there’s the whole issue of her always asking for other people’s help, but being the one to help. I stand corrected- she will offer help if she thinks she has something to gain from it. And by “something to gain,” well, see the part about the in crowd. And when she does ask for help, it’s always along the lines of “come help me paint, and please bring your own supplies, because I am way too poor (cheap) to spring for a few paint rollers/brushes.”

The moral of the story is that she is not the type of person I choose to associate with. I am selective with my friends. My friends add to my life; they do not define who I am and they certainly don’t define my self-worth.