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July 10, 2006

So, this guy I know told me about his blog, and I went and checked it out, and while I like him in person, his blog makes me want to get in my car, drive to wherever he lives, and kick him. It's a blog chronicling his dating life, and he really comes off badly in it. Actually, he comes off as a tool. If I were dating him and I came across the blog, I would immediately dump him.

Now clearly, I'm not reading it anymore, but if he asks if I did, do I tell him, "Yes, you big tool, here's your kick!" or do I lie? And am I under any obligation to point out that people he doesn't want to find the blog may, in fact, find it, even if he doesn't ask?

08:02 PM

Comments

1. how do you "Know" this guy? If you are dating him you might want to push pause until you figure out if he is a fraud or if he is just a tool on his blog. If he is a friend tell him his blog makes him look like a tool. 2. Do not give him your blog - lest he comment in tool-like fashion My 2-cents!

Posted by Michelle at July 10, 2006 08:22 PM

Whoops just read you are not dating him. I say drive over and tell him he is a tool. Or send him an ecard!

Posted by Michelle at July 10, 2006 08:23 PM

first of all, you have no obligations whatsoever here. He's a friend and he tol d you about his blog. *shrugs* However...as a friend, I might mention something like, have you show this to any of your other woman friends? If he says yes, go from there. If he says no, ask him why he shared it with you; did he want constructive criticism, etc. Then there's your opening to say that women might be offended by some of the things he says and explain why (cause guys can be dense).

Posted by Janet at July 11, 2006 08:00 AM

Am I the only one who wants to know who the tool is, and what his blog is? Maybe it's just cause I live near Michele and would like to avoid him. OK, if I were in this situation, it would really depend on how well I know this guy. I tend to be very candid, though kind. If I knew him just as an acquaintance, I'd not say much if he didn't ask. If he did, I'd say something noncommital. If he were a friend, I'd be more to the point. "Dude, WTF are you thinking? You're really a good person, but through your blog you're coming across as a total ass! Let me tell you from a woman's point of view that if I only knew you from your blog, I'd run. far. away." I'd probably say it much nicer, though.

Posted by lastewie at July 11, 2006 09:46 AM

Lastewie's approach sounds good to me. The more of a friend he is, the more I think you owe him an honest opinion. If he isn't a friend... well, I guess you know not to bother dating him now?

Posted by dreadmouse at July 11, 2006 01:58 PM

In general, I dislike reading the blogs of people I know in real life. I'm not sure why. I just don't like the way most people express themselves online.

Posted by Laura at July 12, 2006 06:43 PM